I Signed up for THIS.

I read things that will say how people put “fake” lives on Facebook and nothing is truly that perfect, which I agree with on the occasion, especially when I see one of my friends who complain CONSTANTLY about situations, then go posting how great everything is.

I’d like to think that I keep it real for the most part. I do use the occasional SnapChat Filter, only because I don’t always have the time or want to make the time to put makeup on, and I’ll use the filter that just makes my face look decent, not like a superstar.

Anyways, I have noticed for some time now that when I post a video rant or a post about a kid being sick or not feeling well, I get an

“I’m so sorry.”

or a

” Cherish these moments, because it won’t last forever.”

“It will get easier, Mama.”

Let’s get one thing straight…. while I half-hazardly appreciate the concern, there’s no concern here. NONE. I just want VALIDATION that this MOM thing ISN’T for the FAINT of HEART.

There is NO need for an APOLOGY about my kid being sick, or me being up all night and waking up in the middle of the night catching throw up in a towel and/or on myself from the baby.

I SIGNED UP FOR THIS!!!

This is MOTHERHOOD.  In all its glory.

The SAME people that complain that “your life is so perfect through Facebook,” are the ones who want to try and give the advice on how sorry they are and give you pity when things AREN’T going perfect, so WHAT DO YOU WANT??   My perfect “fake” life, or MY “I just got threw up on in the middle of the night life?

In my eyes, when you are saying, “oh, it will be okay mama. this is just a difficult time.” I KNOW THIS!   Again, I SIGNED UP FOR THIS.  I don’t need your SYMPATHY.

I am just trying to not so silently make my point that THIS IS WHY moms ONLY POST POSITIVE things, because they don’t want to hear APOLOGIES. We just want a “Hope they feel better soon.” or a “Let me know if you need anything.”

And trust me when I say, I don’t post because I want something. I just simply want to let people in on my life, because let’s face it……

If I run into you today, I’m going to be half-asleep, probably not in the best mood, because I was up half the night being puked on, and I may or may not be wearing a TIARA because my kids DARED me to since it’s my birthday……

So not only do I look half-asleep and cranky, but I will also be walking around looking like a Hungover Disney Princess.

I’m a HOT MESS…

BUT….

I SIGNED UP FOR THIS!!!

I knew there would be days of puke and poop and all nasty things, but I also know this job comes with SNUGGLES, and SLOPPY KISSES, and a LOVE that has NO END and NO Measure, no matter how wide these sweet kiddos spread their arms to tell me just HOW MUCH they love me.

I SIGNED UP FOR THIS, so

PLEASE

STOP with the apologies when everything ISN’T perfect!!!

Sometimes a mom just needs to vent to VALIDATE that what she is going through is NORMAL and KNOW that SHE ISN’T the only one up in the middle of the night getting puked on, or cleaning shit out of a bathtub.

So please, just let it be. Let the mom know, you know what she’s going through and she ISN’T ALONE.

Don’t offer an apology.

Again, She’s looking for VALIDATION, not SYMPATHY.

Offer another CRAZY story about YOU being up in the middle of the night, so that she TRULY knows she is not alone.

Motherhood is messy and emotional and one of the most stressful and amazing journeys I have ever been through and continue to go through, but in the end…..

I am SO glad that I SIGNED UP FOR THIS!

Motherhood

Motherhood is……exhausting!!

Let me preface this by first saying, being a mom is absolutely the most rewarding and life changing title I have ever had. From finding out about the pregnancy to the uncertainty of what life will be like with this little one outside the womb, to their first cry, rolling over, crawling, walking, their first teeth, first words, the hugs and kisses and I love you…… ALL OF iT!! I LOVE every little piece of it, no exceptions.

Here is the thing though. You expect all those things mentioned above. It’s what everyone raves about and talks about.

What NO ONE is talking about when it comes to becoming a mom….

middle of the night nursing, the middle of the night toddler waking up coming to get into your bed, the dogs barking for no reason but it wakes you up, the struggles in the grocery store because the kids want everything they can get their hands on, the trying to get 4 kids dressed and out the door by a certain time, all while having them fed and their bags packed for school, and making sure all their papers are signed.

And the laundry….all the laundry, and the meals that you have to prepare, the clothes you pick up off the floor that are right BESIDE the dirty clothes basket, the hidden candy wrappers behind furniture, the legos that you step on, the little toys that are stuffed between couch cushions and under furniture…….the being in the car for hours on end just to get the kids to the placed they have to go…school drop off, school pick up, soccer practice drop off and pick up, dance drop off and pick up, tumbling drop off and pick up…..

The back talk, the whining, the crying, the “It’s not fair.” “She hit me.” “I’m telling mom.” “Why?” “But I don’t want to.” “No.” Again, the WHINING…

The car that won’t ever be clean and looks like a trash can, the attitudes, the schedules, the homework, the I don’t feel like cleaning or I don’t feel like feeding the dogs…..

NO ONE Tells you THESE THINGS!!! Maybe some of it is implied??? I don’t know, but when I unexpectedly became a mom sooner than anticipated, I never forethought these things…..It is absolutely EXHAUSTING….I am literally sitting here about to fall asleep!

Wanna know what though???? I wouldn’t trade it for ANYTHING in the world…..because with all of those exhausting moments, come 5 extra moments that will make your heart melt and want to smile like you’ve never smiled before……

The toddler not letting go of her big brother because “he’s never leaving for school. I love him too much.”

My oldest son holding the baby’s hand while laying in my bed just because he wants him to feel safe.

The I Love you’s, the snuggles, the smiles, the hugs, the co-sleeping, the kids playing a game and getting along without arguing, the moments where they show you what kind of kids they really are and how you are doing something right by raising them.

When your oldest gets a good grade on a test and smiles so big because she thought she didn’t do well.

“I missed you,” when they’ve been gone with their grandparents for the night.

Motherhood is absolutely exhausting, but it is even more rewarding. It is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and while I know there will be plenty more tough times and difficult situations, knowing that I have the ability to raise 4 little humans to become adults in this world, is incredibly invigorating. I hope to raise 4 independent individuals that can support themselves and get along on their own, but also aren’t afraid to call mom and just need her!!! I do not wish this to come any time soon, but I know it will happen all too quickly, but until then I will soak up my snuggles, and cuddle them when they are sick or had a bad day, hold their hand as we walk into school, and just love on them as much as I can while they are still little. My mom has always said enjoy them when they are little, because their childhood will fly by and you will wonder where it went.

My prayer for all of us as parents is that we live a little and enjoy the small moments, and make memories that last a lifetime that you can talk about when they are grown and home for visits, because we all know that as exhausting as it is, one day we will be wishing for it all to be back within our grasp.

Pray for Me